To the "Winkers"

So on Match.com, one of the options to begin interaction is to send someone a "wink." After the wink, you have the choice to wink back or send him an email. It's like the games people play in a bar, you catch them looking at you, you send a demure eye-fuck back, etc. But isn't this why I tried online dating - because I'm tired of the bar scene and the games??? Good communication is one of the most important things I want in a relationship. I'd rather get a straight up email saying "hi, I'd like to get to know you", not go through this passive winking stuff with someone who isn't confident enough to start the conversation.

So I added a new section in my about me and who I'm looking for now it reads:


"I'm a girl looking for love, I know who I am, and I enjoy the simple things daily as well as the large adventures. I value honesty and truth in a relationship more than anything. I want someone who is genuinely interested in creating something long term.

With that said, please don't wink at me on here, I value communication and want someone confident enough to approach me with conversation. ....."

It is amazing how many people are still sending winks - and the winkers are automatically disqualifying themselves because they didn't even to take the time to read my profile. They probably just flipped through a few pictures and sent a wink. Would a man who's serious about finding something amazing not even read about who she is or what she likes to do? I wouldn't do that, so I'm giving them the same consideration they have given me, and every wink is getting a "polite reply No, Thanks," no matter how cute their photo is.....